To explain how our perspectives are formed and hardened over time, I describe to my classes a Nobel prize winning experiment involving kittens.
A group of kittens is raised in an environment that has only horizontal stripes. When they are released into a more open space which has curves or vertical lines, they bump into things–because they literally can’t see anything they weren’t raised to see.
Recently in my class Values, Vision & Good Vibrations, we talked about the absolute necessity of staying focused on what we DO choose to experience in life–especially if we’re stuck in the muck.
The more we focus on muck, the more muck exists. Being stuck in the muck is like being a kitten raised in horizontal lines and never seeing its way out of it.
One of our dear friends in the class is enduring a long stretch of muck– and, regrettably, seems unable to focus on anything other than an unending seeming series of misfortunes involving money, health, relationships, family, you name it.
So, when our assignment for the next session was to choose some ACTION STEP that would be personally uplifting, she mentioned a local pottery studio where she has a membership–but didn’t know how she’d raise the money to buy the clay.
Immediately the others in the group reached into their purses and handed her a wad of $5 and $10 bills — more than enough to buy plenty of clay–a true cause for celebration, one might think.
Instead, she was so overwhelmed by the generous gesture that she proclaimed herself too guilty to keep the money. Tears streamed down her face and all of our hearts opened to her to help her lift herself up.
Needless to say, we insisted that she keep the money and show us the results of her creative endeavors at the final session–and I believe it will be something quite beautiful.
My point is this: Even when she got exactly what she had asked for, she wanted to reject it. The old “I am not worthy” excuse.
I’ve done it before, I confess.
Is this one of the self-thwarting mechanisms you use to shoot your-own-self in the foot?